Survival become difficult and we tend to forgo values or put them under the carpet to please others.
In an office, as usual the boss was telling an old joke, which he had repeated several times. And everybody was laughing and had to laugh. They were all bored by it, but when the boss tells a joke you have to laugh–it is part of their duty. There was one woman accountant, who was not laughing–was sitting straight, serious. The boss was surprised to see one of his staff not laughing. He approached her and asked, “What is the matter with you? Why are you not laughing?”
She said, “I am leaving this month–so there is no point laughing!”
Often survival become difficult and we tend to forgo values or put them under the carpet to please others. We project a false persona to get identified with the situation. But if we have to do it our whole lives where do our personalities stand? Am I truthful to myself? Am I leading a life which I want to live, or living for somebody else? You can’t please everyone. If you try, you lose yourself. Practically for such people their whole lives become an opera where many roles are enacted.
Even a child shows what he is by what he does; you can tell if he is honest and good. (The Bible, Proverb 20:10)