Junk food corner

Moving into the food court of my school gives me a feeling of relishing different food delights- rightly named as ‘oodles and noodles’, ‘southern delights’ ‘cheesy burgers’, ‘chocolate toasts’, ‘chilli milli toasts’, ‘spicy vada paves’ ‘bhel puries and pani puries’ and the like. They are just bandwagons targeted at an intended audience, new generation that can never visualize a party without pizzas, soft drinks and burgers. It is their delight. The Facebook posts on detrimental facts of some food items scare some people for sometime, but the temptation of these food is more powerful than the rest. They are nagging. Once you start eating them you can help saying no to it.

The problem does not lie in the substance which they use to prepare these dishes. Rather it lies in the quantity of those substances which are beyond the set standard and limit. This is indisputable that these are mouth watering dishes. But where are they taking us? to the death bed, and an array of diseases. Can this new generation muster their courage to stand against this menace?

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Five misconceptions about happiness

Happiness is one of the concepts which is often misunderstood. In this post, I would like to  talk about some of the misconceptions about the very idea of happiness.

  1. Happiness is the supreme end of human life. Happiness is not the only ultimate end of every  human being. It is not a target. It is a means to achieve an end. It is not an end in itself. Happiness is just earthly and profane. There is no happiness in life after death. It means that happiness is possible only when one is alive. It is mundane.

2.The second misconception is that happiness lies in moral living. To be happy one needs to be morally good and upright. It is  not correct there are many people who are not morally good lead a happy life. They don’t care what is morality. They don’t behave in an ethical way. But there are many people who are unhappy who are morally good. Morality has nothing to do with happiness.

  1. Another thesis of happiness is that it is result of one’s actions. It’s not true. Actions have nothing to do with happiness. The way you are doing your deeds determine the happiness. A deed alone don’t bring in happiness.

  2. Happiness consists not  in doing. Happiness has something to do with our actions. Our words, deeds and thoughts are inter-related.They don’t operate in isolation.

  3. Happiness is highly desirable. It is wrong to say that happiness is the highest desirable good in life. happiness is a by-product of our being, doing, willing, feeling and becoming.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZm4B4foybM

A research on happiness-2

How to Create Joy Today: 7 Tips for a Happy Life

(By Sara Maude)

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama

I have recently come face to face with mortality—not my own, my friend’s. At only 37, Daniel left behind an army of people whose lives he had touched in some way, including my own.At 33 I have just qualified as a Psychotherapist and Hypnotherapist. At the time Daniel passed away I was working as a Human Resources Manager, a profession I had originally trained in and remained in for over 10 years.A number of factors and events led me to make the leap and set up my own practice as a Psychotherapist and Hypnotherapist, but the overriding reason was simply to follow my dreams. Many of my friends told me how inspiring I was to them, others told me I was brave, and the rest gave me a look of awe that suggested I was crazy.

Words of well meaning advice were spoken.

“Why don’t you work part time while you get the business underway?”

“It’s going to take time for you to get regular clients you know; they won’t come overnight.”

“You can always go back to human resources if it doesn’t work.”

All of this came from my nearest and dearest friends and family! I didn’t listen to any of them because I knew from the depths of my soul that this was the right thing to do, and I knew their words were only echoes of their own fears about life and striking out—not my own.Every day we are faced with stories that remind us of our own mortality as human beings, but when you lose someone you love with all your heart, it changes something deep within you.The everyday drama we allow into our lives falls away and suddenly seems insignificant. We find ourselves reaching out and opening our heart to let others in. We start to notice the simple pleasures.We become acutely aware that we never really know when our time might be up, and we make a pledge to let joy into our life.That was the pledge I made.

I can’t bring back my darling friend, but I can honor him every day by ensuring that my journey is filled with people and experiences that make my heart sing; by letting my emotions and intuition guide me toward what feels good; by choosing freedom over fear; and by remembering that I am the only thing that can stop me from making those choices.What dreams, desires, feelings, or needs of your own have you pushed aside? And if you followed your own dreams and bliss, how would your life change for the better?

You are the driver of your own life, and as you journey through, you have choices about which paths to take. The people you pick up along the way can influence your life, but you still remain in control.  These ideas may help you start creating more joy in your life:

  1. Tell a new story.

What’s your current story, and how does it make you feel? If it doesn’t make you feel good when you tell it, then stop telling it. Instead, tell a story that makes you feel inspired and positive. Maybe you haven’t found your calling yet and feel as if every day is ground hog day.You can change that.I stayed working in Human Resources for 10 years but I had always been interested in Life Coaching.  Up until two years ago I had done nothing about that interest until one day I decided to make a change and looked into some local evening courses.I found one starting a few weeks later and got the last place on it. A coincidence? I think not!  Spending a few hours a week learning something new, just for the pleasure of it, was exhilarating.I changed my story from “I just work in HR” to “At the moment I work in HR, but I’m doing a course in Life Coaching and I’m not yet sure where that may lead me, but it sure is exciting!”What have you always wanted to do in life but have been too afraid to attempt? What activities throughout your life have given you the greatest feeling of achievement? If you could do anything what would you do and what would bring you a step closer to that?

  1. Feel the thoughts that make you feel good.

Sometimes it can feel that our thoughts are thinking us and that we have no control over them.  How many of the 60,000 thoughts you have each day are anxious, critical, defensive, or frustrated? Most of our everyday thinking is driven from the unconscious mind, which is far greater than the conscious mind. This is why it may feel an impossible task to rein your thoughts in. But as with most things, a little practice can go a long way. Reach for the thoughts that make you feel good and then practice holding on to them. If, for example, you have had a bad day at work, don’t tell the story about it because that won’t make you feel good! Don’t ruminate on the conversations or events of the day because that will only serve to make you tenser and may affect your ability to have a good night’s sleep. Instead let go of the thoughts and think of something else that makes you feel good. It may be something you have planned for the weekend. It may be a memory of time spent with your partner. Or it could just be an inner knowing that you don’t have to think this way, followed by good feelings about that.The more you can get a hold on your thoughts, the greater control you will gain over your emotions.  After all, why would you choose to feel anything but joyful, elated, on top of the world, clear-minded, creative, enthusiastic, or eager? What will it be like when you can feel like that for most of your day?

  1. Spring clean your belief system.

We are powerful creators of our own reality, but so many of us don’t realize our own true potential.  We are all equal; not one of us is more “special” than another.The only difference is that there are some people who have learned to shine a beam on what they really want in life and then have the belief to make that happen. When you believe it, you feel it right through to your very core. Many people believe they have to live with the cards they have been dealt, that life is tough, or if you want something you have to fight for it.Yet beliefs are only thoughts that we keep thinking. No belief is set in stone.As humans we have a great capacity for sticking to false beliefs. We once believed that the world was flat until someone convinced us otherwise. I have run two marathons in the past two years. Yet if you asked me five years ago if I could run even a half marathon, I wouldn’t have believed it. What beliefs have you got that are holding you back? If you really challenge those beliefs you will see them start to crumble, allowing you to build new, stronger, more positive beliefs. Ask yourself “Where has this belief come from?” “What does this belief cost me on a daily basis?” “What would happen if I let go of this old belief?”

  1. Get happy now!

So many times I hear people say “I’ll be happy when I lose some weight.” “I’ll be happy when I retire.” “I’ll be happy when I get a boyfriend.” “I’ll be happy when I get a place of my own.”What about being happy now? Happiness is an emotion. If you reach for thoughts that make you feel happy, you can be happy right now! When you focus your attention on feeling happy now, the rest falls into place, and you find yourself attracting new things into your life.My tried and tested “happiness pill” is to think of the time I went travelling in South America. I close my eyes and imagine I am back there with no more than a backpack, feeling the sun warm against my skin, sitting outside a cafe sipping a cool drink as I soak up the sights and sounds before my eyes. It never fails to raise a smile on my lips and a glow in my heart.

  1. Get into gratitude.

Be grateful for what you have in your life now. Take a few moments every day to really savor what makes you happy and give thanks for it.It could be waking up in a warm bed, enjoying a piece of cake in a cafe while watching the world go by, walking with your dog in the fresh air, or simply being healthy.When you create feelings of gratitude, you change the feeling in your heart. Just think what effect having a heart bursting with gratitude can have on your mind and your body!

  1. Create a bliss board.

Take a large sheet of cardboard and fill it with pictures, captions, or words that you want your life to reflect. So many of us know what we don’t want, but are not clear what we do want.Pin it to a wall in your home so that every day you are reminded of what you want in life. I found a wonderful caption in a magazine that read “educating body, mind, heart, and soul.” Every morning I see it on my bliss board and it sets my day off with the right intention.

  1. Take a leap of faith.

To move forward and allow new experiences, new energy, and new people into your life you have to let go of whatever isn’t working for you.It does take confidence and self-belief, but this is where banishing the old beliefs and replacing your old negative thoughts with positive ones comes in. If practiced regularly, this will create the self-worth and self-reliance needed to make that leap of faith.Take a moment now to reflect on the above and on your life. Remind yourself of just how wonderful this rich tapestry of life is, that there is a sea of opportunity ripe for the taking out there, if only we would take it. But above all, remember that no matter what is happening to any one of us, the only thing that really matters at the end of it all is that our lives were filled with joy.

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10 simple tips to live happy, wild and free

                                                                                                                                                (by Lynn Newman)

“If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.” -Morris West

In the past I was not known as a happy, wild, and free person. (OK maybe wild, I had my moments…) In stuck phases, peppered with depression, darkness, and hopelessness, I often wondered what it would be like to feel happy, wild and free. I fantasized about living in Europe, writing in cafes like Hemingway, having wild crazy affairs with sexy men, or even moving to Hawaii and wearing nothing but sarongs and flip flops all day. But in truth, these fantasies were empty.

I knew in my gut that fantasies of escape would not bring authentic happiness or true freedom. Maybe at the onset, but in the end trying to create happiness, wild moments, and freedom outside of myself is only temporary. I’m left with facing whatever is still present within me. Funny enough, I am most happy and free when attending my yearly meditation retreats. Yeah, I know, sitting in a dark room for hours at a time without moving doesn’t seem like the world’s wildest party.But, when I relax, let go, juice up my heart, and get concentrated on the guarding point, my meditation practice takes me to unlimited expansion. There is nothing more that I need.

While meditating I am content, sometimes wildly ecstatic, and blissed-out, but most importantly, I am free. I realize then that my inner-crazy chick’s happiness and freedom exists in the simplest things.When I attune to the simple things that give me joy, my body and spirit ignites! I feel truly alive and wildly happy. I feel free of the heavier burdens, beliefs, and complicated constructs that kept me stuck by focusing only on the “storms” within me.Here are 10 stupidly simple tips to live happy, wild, and free:

  1. Write out a short-list of the simple things that give you pleasure.

Keep them in the front of your consciousness and make sure you engage with them at least a few times a week. As you do these things, stay present and mindful of the joy they bring you.For example, I love eating a fresh juicy nectarine on a summer’s afternoon, and meditating in the morning after a fresh brewed cup of tea, and taking a walk with my husband and window-shopping. What are some of your simple things?

  1. Get moving.

Maybe you like the openness and relaxation you feel after a yoga class or the sweat and wild release of spinning. You may enjoy seeing your dog run happily in circles as you throw balls at the park.Whatever movement inspires you, do it and observe the happiness and freedom it brings. Also, take a short walk after having a meal. This not only helps with digestion, but also instantly relieves any heavy feelings.

  1. Eat light.

Support your body/mind/spirit with simple meals three times a day. On retreat, we eat out of three small bowls, usually a grain, a soup and a vegetable. Eating light helps us to feel lighter and also increases concentration, digestion, energy levels, and productivity.As a practice of mindfulness, I put my eating utensil down between each bite and wait to pick it up again until the food is completely swallowed. It takes 20 minutes for our meal to be digested, so I know if I eat slowly for 20 minutes, I will feel completely satisfied without having to eat large portions.

  1. Take a cold shower.

Waking up in the morning and taking a cold shower revives and wildly awakens the senses. Here are some benefits of cold showers:

  • Improves circulation
  • Relieves depression
  • Keeps skin and hair healthy
  • Increases testosterone and fertility
  • Increases energy and well-being
  1. Talk less, and when you do talk have noble conversation.

When you hang out with your friends and loved ones, learn to love the spaces in the conversation. Listen more to their tone as they share rather than thinking about how you are going to respond.Pay attention to what happens to your energy when you talk less, and how much happier you feel as you conserve more energy. Plus, you will love the simple intimacy of your relationships as you increase presence and heart-centered listening, freeing yourself of complications and unwanted dramas.

  1. Get 10 minutes of sun a day.

With sunscreen, there are benefits to getting sun. Well-documented research shows there is a relationship between low vitamin D levels and poor health, such as frail bones, multiple sclerosis, and prostate cancer. We need vitamin D! Also, light hitting your skin, not just your eyes, helps reverse seasonal affective disorder. Here comes the sun! Let the sunshine in!

  1. Turn off the TV.

Rather than watch TV, use your time more mindfully. Read, walk, meet friends, or join an evening group or class. Use your time to connect to others and yourself. Or jump in and do something different, spontaneous, and wild!

  1. Create.

Even if you don’t consider yourself an artist there are so many ways to express creatively. Cook with a loved one, dance in your living room, sing in the car, journal without editing or crossing out, learn a new joke.Be happy, wild, and free as you express yourself more creatively!

  1. Enjoy nature.

Find the nature that surrounds you—really see it. Observe yourself as you witness nature and appreciate its growth and timing.If you feel like things are going too slow, too fast, or you aren’t really sure of where you are going, remember there is a natural timing for everything, and all the roads are taking you to the right place at the right time.Ask yourself, “How can I compare nature’s experience to my life? How am I just like the wild flower that is growing on the path?”

  1. Know the simple truth.

With enthusiasm and confidence, state what you know to be true about your authentic self. Ask yourself, “What is true about myself right now in this moment?” For example, I am enough, I am worthy, I am good, I am loved, I have what I need, or I am a success. State this affirmation out loud a few times to embody the essence of who you really are in this very moment. Take it in! Believe this and you are free! Keeping your focus on the simplest things offers an immediate experience of abundant joy. May you embrace simplicity in your daily life filled with lightness, movement, and sunshine! What are your simple things that bring light to your life?

Clean India Campaign ( Swach Bharat Abhiyan)

Quite recently I watched a Malayalam movie named ‘Spanish Masala’ in which the hero, Dileep who is one of the famous actors in Malayalam comments as he lands in one city in Spain, ” These dirty people keep their roads superbly clean”. I started contemplating on that keeping in mind the clean India Campaign which has been launched by Modi Government. It is true that Indians are much better in personal cleanliness than Westerners and other ‘First world Country people’. They take bath hardly once in a year or month when in my state (Kerala) almost everyone takes bath twice a day. The climatic conditions may be a deciding factor in this. But when it comes to public cleanliness the latter is much better than the former.

Therefore, I think, it is a matter of change in the attitude that would make a substantial difference in India. As I have said in one of my articles before, if people in India try to look at the public places as their own court yards it would be the cleanest country in the world.One more thing should be considered at this juncture, the alarming population of India. One may quote the example of China which is comparatively cleaner and greener. But its land mass is bigger. India sustains the second largest landmass within its cultural and geographical diversity.

It is true that many cine stars and celebrities are given the responsibility to spread the message to the public but they do fail in communicating to the common man in a language that is perceivable to him/her. That is why they use some words ‘souchalaya’ which is not commonly used in south India. Moreover, the change should begin at the grass root level. It should happen within every Indian family. There must be an awareness within. Responsibility towards the other should be our first priority. If adhered strictly to it, clean India is not a myth but a possibility and undoubtedly this century will be ours !

links to some articles

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swachh_Bharat_Abhiyan

http://www.indiacelebrating.com/essay/social-issues/swachh-bharat-abhiyan/

http://www.thehindu.com/news/national/modi-launches-my-clean-india-campaign/article6468047.ece

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/topic/Clean-India-Campaign

http://www.hindustantimes.com/india/swachh-bharat-abhiyan-is-modi-s-scheme-a-success-one-year-later/story-XDjpG9TjuYtkQnFdYKgQyM.html

http://indianexpress.com/article/india/india-others/everything-you-need-to-know-about-pm-modis-clean-india-campaign/

http://www.mapsofindia.com/my-india/society/swachh-bharat-abhiyan-making-india-clean-more

 

Never compromise with your health!

When I look into my past days, the only thing about which I regret are those moments when I neglected to take care of my body. Most of the time I took it for granted that my body is the vehicle of my being which keeps me alive, active, productive and after all exist in this world. The first and foremost thing a human being should do from womb to tomb is to safeguard his/her body with  its pristine purity. All those addictive substances and poisonous foods jeopardize the body. Even the excess of some emotions, like anger, anxiety, desire, lust are really more harmful than the first one.Food, exercise, rest and sleep, regular habits, neatness and cleanliness, air and light, punctuality and peace of mind are the primary conditions for good health.

I would like to suggest the following health tips for different organs:-

  • 30 minutes meditation or contemplation for the brain and mind
  • Brain storming on any concept for 30 minutes for brain
  • 30 minutes brisk walk for the heart
  • 12 glasses of water for the kidneys
  • 10 minutes’ ‘pranayama’ (controlled breathing) for the lung
  • Herbal oil massage once in every month for a healthy skin.
  • Gauge after every meal and brush the teeth for healthy teeth and tongue
  • Eat leafy vegetables and fruits for stomach and skin
  • Reduce the intake of artificial sugars to have a good pancreas
  • Reduce meat and alcohol for a healthy liver
  • Avoid drinks that is too hot or cold for a healthy throat
  • Stop squinting and wash with fresh water before going to bed for healthy eyes.
  •  Control anger and lust to lead a slow paced life
  • practice yoga for at least 30 minutes for overall health of the body.
  • Cultivate any good hobby for a good mental health.
  • Listen to music and spend some time with children to relax the mind.

Some useful quotes

“If you cannot find the time to exercise, you better find the time to be sick”

“So many people spend their health gaining wealth and then to have spend their wealth to regain health.”

“early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”

Search Ill Effects of a Sedentary Life Style

The world has become a global village. Everything is accessible at the click of a mouse. The distance between continents is lessened. The word has become faster and swifter. But the mind has become slower and less vigilant. For instance, numerical calculations are carried out by computers and calculators. The human mind is seldom used for that. As a result, simple calculations such as additions, subtractions and multiplications are forgotten. We are mechanized. Overdependence on such gadgets is a curse than a boon.

The physical movements are minimized. Some people try to compensate it with regular visit to the gym and such fitness centers. But are they effective? If the Darwinian Theory is correct, the organs we don’t use may become insignificant and consequently may become inactive, dead or lost. Thus reasoning power gets lost. Body becomes weak and fragile as movements are substantially reduced. The effect of such a life style is physical conditions like, high blood pressure, heart attack, obesity, and diabetics. Our muscles are loosened as they are not often utilized. Our bones become weak as they are not used.

Therefore, it’s high time that we go back to our natural way of living where most of the activities are done manually which strengthen our body. A weak and sick generation is in the making. Thanks to the great leaps of man in telecommunication, technology and industry! If it’s not checked it would eventually ruin the entire mankind. Hospitals would mushroom and that industry will be the most profit making one in future. Other epidemics also would increase. It is very likely that Robots and machines would witness the extinction of mankind in a century or two. It’s not just an exaggeration but a naked reality. I hope man would realize this forthcoming and danger and act promptly to rescue him from this danger. The bottom line is it’s not yet too late, there is ample time left to act judiciously. Awake and act.

Health is a treasure with no short cuts

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What is health? Health is a state of physical and mental well being. Se when we say we are healthy, we mean that we are physically and mentally in a good condition. But not everyone who says that they are healthy, are really healthy. People nowadays think that being healthy is merely the absence of a disease, but it is not true. Also, there are no short cuts to a healthy life.

We have come across many captions in our day today life such as “Lose 5 Kgs in 5 days” etc. These are not true.They only mislead youths and land them up in great problems related to health. To maintain good health, one has to do exercise regularly, eat healthy food and avoid junk foods. All these things are taught to us right from our childhood, but who cares to follow?

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Coming to teenagers, they don’t even bother to listen to what their parents say, but they easily influenced by their peers. So, teenagers should be educated accordingly so they do not fall pray to the short cuts to the treasure of health.

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Swami Vivekananda once said, “My dear young friends, instead of wasting your time in reading the holy scriptures and the umpanishads play footaball , it is that which will take you more closer to the heaven”.  And Mark Twain said once, “A healthy mind only resides in a healthy body.” But nowadays black clouds have surrounded our eyes and hence people are losing their concentration over health. People have become manipulative and materialistic than ever. This has resulted in people slowing and degrading their health . People don’t really care about health now.

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Child Therapy

Hellow all,

I am very happy to introduce an alternative healing technique. It is the cheapest, happiest and easily accessible method of healing. All that you need a child aged between 1-4 and two eyes to see it. Many successful and happy human beings have been practicing it in-deliberately and deliberately. People who rely on English Medicine please excuse me because it has unprecedented consequences in the patients. People who rely on drugs for treatment excuse me because such treatment also would have  bare consequences.This healing method has zero side-effects. It costs nothing other than time.

It starts with a simple decision to spend at least one hour with a child. Look at the child. Watch its movements. Try to imitate him/her as closely as possible. Never think of anything. Be involved with the child. Slowly you would see that you become like child-radiating joy, happiness, ease, smile, enthusiasm, energy, etc. You will become child-like. There are saints who attained this state of mind without spending time with children. For example, St. Theresa of Lessiex and St. Alphonsa.

There are two things avoided during the treatment. Never try to monitor the child. Leave the child free. Interfere only when it is about to land into self-destructive tasks. Interfere less and observe more. Never try to teach anything to the child. Let the child be your teacher during the treatment. The child would teach you many things. It will show you the meaning of life. It will sublimate you. It will make you illumined and enlightened. It will show you who you are!

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Lead a life with a difference…

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I would like to comment on a quotation that I heard recently, “Winners don’t do different things but they do things differently”. I mused on that. First of all it gave me an insight that there are different things to do. Second thought is that there are many people to do things. The only difference is in the way things are done.Actions are same but doers and manner in which they are done are different. I have read about many who have taken up adventurous sports and trips to make a difference. I have also read about some individuals who chose anonymity to make a difference.

For instance, St. Theresa of Lissiue excelled in spirituality in leading a simple life with perfection. St. Paul on the other hand lead a risky and eventful life to reach the zeninth of Spirituality. When I read the biography of St. Alphonsa, the first St. of the Catholic Church from India, I understood that she chose the first path. The greatness lies not in the deeds but the way in which they are carried out. Perfection is the criterion to judge greatness and sublimity.

Going back to my childhood, I dreamt of becoming popular and I was a social recluse. Now I realize that I need to be more humble and simple to be great. The sun cannot be hidden. Its light is its own manifestation. It has its own light. Whereas the earth hasn’t any light of its own. That is why it experiences darkness half of the day. There are stories of the earth experience darkness for six days in December 2014. It would happen also as a result of some solar phenomenon. The earth has nothing to do with it.

Those who have light in themselves will shine and it cannot be latent or dormant. It will be manifested promptly. Life is a gift and every moment is a wonder for a person who takes it with simplicity, humility, gratitude and a sense of good curiosity. For others, it becomes a race. It ceases to be an enjoyable one. They are still seeking fulfillment forgetting that they are already fulfilled. Life is natural. Man is born with basis contentment. Open your inner eyes to experience it. Open your ears to listen to the sound of your subtle being within.

You will find a difference in your lives instantly! And keep going! The great days are ahead of you. Your state of being sick, aged, separated, poor would vanish with such a realization. Instead, you would regain the happiness with which you are born! have a nice day!